What Women Really Want – Just in Time for Valentine’s Day



After extensive research conducted by me in which I interviewed myself, gave myself surveys written by myself, took placebos – knowingly, and used real life examples experienced by only me, I have successfully deciphered what women really want, from their partner.

Because of my impressive credentials and pristine un-tainted research methods, some of my results were published by the New England Journal of Women.  Take a look.

New England Journal of Women ( published 2/7/14)

1.  Women want to be looked at tenderly, by their partner.   Really looked at.  I’m talking face to face, eye to eye, mano a mano.   This makes them feel wanted and important.  When a smile is added to that tender look, Oh My…, she’s all yours. 


*Exceptions:  If she has a huge zit on her nose or has a mouthful of chocolates – then, by all means, DO NOT LOOK AT HER!

2.  Of all the women interviewed (me) regarding the role Chivalry plays in a relationship, 99.9% said that it is crucial and a total turn-on. One participant said that when her husband helps her with her coat, she gets all warm inside and wants to jump on him right there and then. Opening the car door for her,

If he can do it, so can YOU.

If he can do it, so can YOU.

rottenecard_9229739_jqyy5jqqw5pulling out the chair for her at a restaurant and most importantly, jumping into oncoming traffic to protect her, were some of the popular chivalrous actions women favored.

3.  Women want their partners to LOVE everything they cook.  It does not matter if it smells like dirty feet or tastes like Taco Bell’s twice refried canned beans, eat it.  Don’t ask what it is, when it will be ready or what is in it.  Just smile and eat it – all.



4.  Women love to be kissed.  The majority of the subjects studied said that kissing is a must.  Having her partner lift her chin up gently before a kiss was the top desired method,  



followed by her partner cupping her face with both hands and slowly reaching in for the kiss.  Mmmmmmm I mean, statistically speaking of course.  



One subject (who will remain nameless) added that being kissed on the neck was her all-time  favorite.



5.  Romance her. The results of the surveys were unanimous.  All women questioned in this study, want nothing more than to be romanced by their partner – especially for Valentine’s Day.  Yes, it is a big deal and she does want you to acknowledge her on Valentine’s Day.  Hello????  And no, a hollow Russell Stover chocolate-shaped heart from Walmart, will not do.



 Flowers are nice, but dinner out to a decent restaurant is the clear winner (according to the study).  While at the restaurant,  I  they want to be told they are the most beautiful woman in the world.

*A Special Thanks to my research partner,  Bryan Adams who really understands women.

Have You Ever Really Loved A Woman.

To really love a woman, to understand her
You gotta know her deep inside
Hear every thought, see every dream
An’ give her wings when she wants to fly
Then when you find yourself lyin’ helpless in her arms
You know you really love a woman…


WARNING: A Very Sappy But Love-Filled Post



It was summer of 1981.  You took me to a beautiful lake nearby with a picnic blanket and basket in tow.  We sat on the blanket and you listened very intently to my woes.  The jerk had cheated on me and you wanted to comfort me.  What a wonderful friend you were.

We talked, we laughed and we basked in the sun.  Your next move forever changed my life and led me to the happiness I feel today and every day.

As I spoke, you stared right into my eyes as you lifted your hand and gently began to play with my hair.  My heart skipped many beats as I let you thread your fingers through my curls.  I sat frozen, unable move.  Whatever magic spell you meant to cast on me was successfully carried out. I was yours.

I had never dated anyone like you.  So polite, so generous and forever the gentleman.  Chivalry defined you.  You opened the car door for me,  you held my hand and led me, you walked on the outside of the sidewalk to protect me from cars,  you put your arm out across my chest to protect me from harm when having to suddenly stop while driving, you helped me with my coat and you always put me ahead of your own needs.

The endless flowers you sent me, the beautiful cards, drawings and poems taught me what romance truly meant.

Even after I foolishly ended our relationship, you were still there.  You never stopped calling, writing and coming to see me.  You never gave up on me.

You endured my father’s strict rules and graciously asked him for my hand in marriage.  You were by my side when my illness struck.  You nursed me and lifted my spirits when the diagnosis came.  You held my hand through the surgeries and went to every doctor’s appointment with me.

You were there during the birth of our two wonderful children and reassured me when my health brought risk to their births.  What a wonderful father you were and still are.  Taking the children out every weekend to let me sleep in.  Always putting my needs ahead of yours.

Your love for me has never wavered.  You continue to be strong for me, to help me navigate through the obstacles and pain this chronic illness has brought with it.  Always understanding, always compassionate.

Your humor has healed me more than any medicine ever could.  I love how you make me laugh day after day.

Your romantic ways continue to make me feel like a queen and bring out the passionate woman in me. 

Just when I think we can’t possibly love each other more, the strength of our relationship deepens further as we deal with life’s ups and down.

I can’t imagine my life without you and feel forever grateful to you for giving so much of yourself to me.

Te quiero mucho,

Happy 24th Wedding Anniversary1_2