Love Has No Timeframe

I realize that I have written about my mother’s second marriage here before, but as I sit and watch her and her wonderful husband hanging out in my living room with me, I can’t help my desire to want to shout out their story and tell it over and over again.

My mother.  A beautiful and caring woman who has been my life line, my strength and my inspiration.  Someone who has taught me to accept what is, to make do with what one has and to persevere when the desire to quit is lurking nearby.

In her mid 70’s after having lived as a widow for twelve difficult years following the death of my father (her childhood sweetheart),  she met a man.  A man she was not looking for.  A man she was not interested in meeting.  A kind, intelligent persistent widower who had heard about her via mutual friends.

He lived in California, she in Puerto Rico.  Friends insisted they talk on the phone.  He gave her his email address, she purposely lost it. He had family in Puerto Rico and used that as an excuse to go meet her.  She reluctantly accepted his dinner invitation.

They dined, they talked, they laughed.  They dined again the next night.  And the next.   They laughed some more.  A month went by and they continued to ‘secretly date’.  Not a word was said to family or friends.  Not a word to their kids.

She traveled to the States to care for me after an operation.  While at my house, she behaved strangely.  She giggled often.  She texted a lot.  She smiled. She sang.  She skyped.  She was more giddy than my teenage daughter.  What was going on?

My husband caught her skyping in the middle of the night.  Who was she taking to?  She answered texts while at the dinner table with her grandkids watching her.  She was in her own little world.

Finally, I demanded she tell me what was going on.  She smirked, hesitated and blushed.  She informed me that she had met a ‘nice man’ who lived in California. WHAT??

After interrogating her, alerting my siblings, conducting a paid background check on him and google earthing his home,  I sat wide eyed with a dropped jaw, in disbelief.  She was flying to CA to visit him.  WHAT??

She flew to him.  She remained the moral and assured woman she had always been.  She stayed at a hotel near his home.  They dined, they laughed, they talked.  She called me to tell me they were engaged.  WHAT??

Who was this man?  Was she in danger?

Within a week, he had flown back to my home with her.  They were engaged and beaming with glee.  At a luncheon with my siblings where he proclaimed his love for her and his desire to marry her, we too were instantly smitten.  What an amazing person.  What a kind, loving and respectful man.  How he cherished my mother.  How happy they seemed.

On December 4, 2015, they will be celebrating their 5th year wedding anniversary.  They are by far, the sweetest, cutest and happiest couple I know.  They hold hands, they kiss, they watch out for one another, they travel, they dance, they dress up, they live and they love.

They say love is patient and kind.  I see that it is also within anyone’s reach, no matter the age.

Wishing them both many more years of love and health!



28 thoughts on “Love Has No Timeframe

  1. Hi Maria! It seems ages since we hung out! Have I somehow missed your posts? Have you been away? I took a 6 week break in the summer and since I returned to blogging in early October, I’ve struggled to keep up..and look, it’s almost Thanksgiving (well, for you it is, not here in the UK!). But…the important thing is I saw your post pop up and oh, what a wonderfully, happy story. I love everything you share about your mom and stepdad. Happy 5th wedding anniversary on December 4th to them both! I know that there is always hope as after being widowed and then a long, unhappy marriage and divorce, I eventually went on to meet my hubby, we will celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary next March. I know how your mom feels and it’s wonderful! Thank you my friend for this joy-filled celebratory post, you’ve made my day 🙂 ❤ xo

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    1. Hello my lovely Sherri! I have missed you as well. Life keeps getting in the way of my social ‘media-ing’ and I have not posted much. I have a lot of catching up to do and will head your way shortly.

      My mom is here until Saturday when she will head to my sister’s house. It’s been a wonderful two weeks with them here. They really are the cutest couple around and I cannot believe it has been 5 years since their wedding. I couldn’t be happier for them both. You do know what it’s like to get a second chance, don’t you? I am so thrilled that you found love again and that you are happily married. 🙂

      Thank you for taking the time to read this post and for your sweet comments. xoxo

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      1. It’s so lovely to be in touch again Maria, I’m so happy you had such a wonderful time with your dear mom and her lovely hubby 🙂 And thank you so much for your kind words…it means a lot. I’m so sorry it’s been a while since I replied to your reply, ha! I’ve really struggled with blogging too. I’m trying to revise the first draft of my memoir but that’s taken a back seat too with all that’s been going on, and such a busy time of year too with Christmas fast approaching. It didn’t help that I was involved in a car crash on Wednesday…brand new car, only three months old, so I’m not happy. But…nobody was injured and it wasn’t my fault. Such a hassle though with all the insurance ‘stuff’. Anyway, I hope to get another few posts up before signing off for Christmas. And you know that the door to the Summerhouse is always open to you my friend 🙂 xoxo

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  2. Please tell your mom I hope to meet her. She’s who I want to be when I grow up.

    In other news, we’ll be in the Hudson Valley for MTM’s birthday weekend (Jan 16 and part of 17). If you and Mr B feel like a road trip……….Beacon, NY isn’t THAT far.

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    1. YES! I cannot wait until you meet her and her husband. She knows all about you! I am having them read Not Without My Father while they are here!! 🙂

      We will look at our calendars and see if we are free that weekend. 🙂

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  3. Ohhhhh HONEYBEE! This is a wonderful, glorious tale of love, which I had somehow missed before now! They both look so so happy, and I LOVE how you describe her in-love-ness, and what a wonderful thing to happen.

    Love really is within everyone’s reach, if they’re lucky 🙂 I’m glad she and this gentleman were lucky, and that they found each other.

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